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How Do You Recognize Real LOVE?

Does your lover walk around with a sticker on their head to tell you theyâ€™re in a loving or in a non-loving mood? Do you walk around with a badge on your chest that says Please love me, I need it NOW!
So what does real love look like? How do you perceive when you get it?
It appears so obvious but itâ€™s not. Letâ€™s check that out. Make a mental list of your responses to the following questions.
Who have you loved today? (List them in your mind â€“ maybe your boss, a friend or family?)
How do YOU know that you loved them. How can you be absolute it was love?
(Was it love in your attitude towards them?
Was it perhaps caring decisions that you made towards them?
Was it a tender touch or a kind word that you communicated?
What did you do?)
You may have sent love, but did they get it? Did they experience it as loving? This is the difficult part, because we have little or no control over other peopleâ€™s reactions to our love acts.
It is so easy to presume that because we loved, they automatically felt loved. You may even feel that they now owe it to love you back, but maybe they didnâ€™t even identify your loving. Have you ever experienced that your loving was ignored, as though you were not there. That no-one notices how loving you are â€“ especially if you are a wife!
If at the end of your day you can list who it was that you loved and how then you are fortunate. For most of us one day just blends into the next, and we are hardly aware of when loving is happening or when it is not, simply because we live without feedback about how we are growing with our loving.
I want to motivate you to change this by taking some specific action!
For the next five nights, starting tonight, I want you to do three things to help you review your loving. Youâ€™ll be surprised how this feedback will take your loving to a new level.
Firstly, take a piece of paper and on it list all the people you tried to love today, leaving some space between them for comments.
Secondly, Next to each name note what you did to love them, whether it be an action, your words or your time.
Thirdly next to each one note how you think they responded to your loving, and what makes you think that â€“ for example what they said, their body language, how they reacted.
Then pray for them that they will feel loved and blessed by your loving.
Do that for the next few nights and youâ€™ll suddenly recognize love in places and ways you have never seen it before.
Remember that much of the value of your love is lost, if your loved ones do not FEEL loved by your loving actions. If in doubt, why not ask them whether they felt loved or not by what you did, and try new ways to share your love with them.

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Until next time this Pierre Basson from www.living4loving.com from saying â€œEveryone is looking for real love with a name and a face to it, and itâ€™s you.â€

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